Fighting the Diabetes Chocolate Demons

This post is dedicated to my friend Carol. I met Carol through my blog and we periodically email each other talking about Type 1 diabetes, Medicare, and stuff like that. She doesn’t live near me and I don’t know if we will ever meet in person. But we share the journey, the joy, and the struggle of women aging with Type 1 diabetes. Thank-you for being part of my life, Carol.

Dear Carol-

The anguish you described in your latest email about chocolate, post-dinner eating, and making “bad” decisions probably rings true for almost everyone with diabetes. In fact it might ring true for every human being who has access to potato chips, chocolate, cigarettes, and/or alcohol. Unfortunately for those of us with diabetes, we have BG meters that provide a visual reminder of how often we have failed to live up to our expectations.

I am good at finding temporary solutions to the problem of evening snacking. I long ago gave up hope of ever totally eliminating it. Sometimes I play games that work for a while. For example I package something like Hershey’s Kisses in plastic bags of 15g carbs. I put them in the freezer and allow myself 1 bag each evening. That works for a few weeks before I realize that nothing is stopping me from grabbing a second or third bag of chocolate. Then I play around with my digital calendar and add a daily resolution event of “No cr*p eating after dinner.” When I am successful, I change the color of the event from a boring gray to a pretty color. It’s stupid, but once again it works for a couple of weeks. Sometimes I put a big “No!” sign on the refrigerator or snack cupboard, but this only works for a day to two. I have a couple more games that frankly are reminiscent of Stupid Pet Tricks…. Another thing I do is have a cup of caffeine-free tea after dinner. That burns up some of the time when I might have the urge to start snacking. Going for a walk after dinner helps but I am usually so active during the day that I don’t want or need more Fitbit steps. Some people learn to knit or crochet and others play computer solitaire to avoid snacking.

I understand some of my triggers for chocolate orgies. Snacking in the late afternoon sometimes leads to skipping dinner and that’s a recipe for disaster. Too much wine before and during dinner definitely ruins my willpower and I don’t keep it in the house anymore. I think my biggest frustration is that I can convince myself that the “correct” insulin bolus will take care of the snack food and I’ll just have a couple of cookies. But it doesn’t work. Never, never, never. It doesn’t work.

Recently I’ve had a string of successful evenings with a Nature Valley Protein Bar (Peanut Butter Dark Chocolate—14g carbs) along with a mug of warm FairLife milk (6g carbs). You can buy the bars in boxes of 5 at the grocery store or in the big boxes of 30 at Costco. I’ve been known to eat two bars, but usually one is enough and the addition of the warm milk extends the enjoyment time of the snack. A friend recently told me about FairLife milk which is ultra-filtered and has half the carbs and sugar of regular milk. I like it much better than almond milk and the impact on BG is minimal.

I know that periodically I am going to relapse from whatever temporary solution I have found and I try to forgive myself for those times. At the same time my slip-ups drive me crazy because my overnights are so much better when I don’t lose the evening munchie battle. My Dexcom CGM doesn’t alarm to lows in the early night hours followed by 2:00AM highs as the junk food digests. My fasting BG in the morning doesn’t randomly pingpong between low and high. A  reasonably-sized evening snack leads to a higher percentage of “good” overnight BG numbers with only minor low and high excursions. My fasting numbers tend to be more stable. I sleep better. I feel better.

Why can’t I do what I know is good for me and what makes me feel better???!!! That’s the million dollar question.

Carol, you described the anguish over our lack of perfection so well. After recently pouring your heart out to your endocrinologist for help, you wrote:

From eating the stupid chocolate I had to have. It is totally the opposite of who I am all day – so disciplined. I’ve asked the Endo for help with the chocolate — counseling for why I need comfort food when I know it’s bad for me? I asked her why I would be 90 after dinner and yet have to have chocolate that I know will spike me to 190?

You call it “Diabetes Distress” and that’s as good a name as any. I have no great advice for you, but I have a lot of understanding. I hope that the next time you beat yourself up over chocolate that you remember that you are not alone. There is no one with diabetes who has ever done it “right” all of the time. Food is a complicated issue as we have to eat to live. Food is our medicine for fighting lows and balancing blood sugars. Foods like chocolate are enjoyable and taste good. Food, especially food with sugar, is addictive. For me there is no doubt than none is easier than one. One cookie and one piece of chocolate don’t live in my world and moderation is often an elusive goal.

Diabetes can easily become a disease of disordered eating, but I think that our distress is not just the chocolate. It’s the relentless pressure of diabetes which is easier to picture as a pile of candy bars than the inner demon of inadequacy as we try to mimic a healthy pancreas.

Carol, it is easy for me to pat you on the head and say what a good job you are doing with your diabetes. Because you are. But it’s harder than that and we can’t pretend that it isn’t. I hope that you may find some answers through counseling. Meanwhile don’t forget to be kind to yourself and remember that you are not alone in your struggles or your successes. If you learn some inner mantras or even Stupid Pet Tricks to tackle the problem, please share. Until then, keep up the good fight.

Laddie

2 thoughts on “Fighting the Diabetes Chocolate Demons

  1. Dear Laddie & Carol –
    1. The both of you are doing a marvelous job re: your diabetes – ROCK ON.
    2. Talking to someone about your D triggers is a wonderful thing – we all need tune-ups, D and otherwise.
    3. 2. I feel your pain – I love chocolate, too!
    Lucky for me, dark chocolate goodness keeps me awake at night ( I kid you not – I’m super caffeine sensitive,) so I usually limit my chocolate to daylight hours. I also, “TRY” (not always successfully,) to stick with dark chocolate, because a little goes along way.
    Sometimes I’m spot on re: my chocolate bolus, other times, not so much.
    Knowing that I am not alone in my D and chocolate struggles makes it easier.
    Thanks for sharing, continue to move forward and keep being fab!
    Xoxo
    Kelly K

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